I very much enjoyed my conversation with Jennifer this week and acting as her coach. We talked about the art of suspension in our own lives, and our quest to be better listeners and thinkers. One reason I have come to appreciate my conversations with Jennifer is that even though I am the coach and she is the coachee, our conversations are very co-beneficial. We make a good team because we ask each other good questions and are genuinely interested in each others answers.
The two things that Jennifer identified right away as main points in how she viewed the act of suspension was the role of curiosity, and the relationship of being sensitive and how that relates to what we have been talking a out. I think she hit on an important point in saying that genuine curiosity absolutely helps a person as they are suspending.
We also then talked a lot a out whether sensitivity is always a good thing when it comes to effective dialogue. She wondered whether sensitivity can be a negative thing in dialogue. She wondered if there were times that she was acting sensitively that people took advantage of her. I certainly believe that sensitivity can be a negative thing. If you are always listening to others and sensitive to their feelings, you might always acquiesce to the feelings of others and it might not be a true representation of your view on something. We talked about this for a while and ended up agreeing that there was a time for sensitivity and a time to throw sensitivity out the window.
I think I was effective at helping Jennifer talk through some of the things that she was thinking. It was a good coaching session!
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