Week 8 Conversation with my coachee, Jennifer

I enjoyed my conversation with week with Jennifer because it allowed us explore things that were unique to ourselves.

After going thorough the appropriate exercises, Jennifer communicated mostly about how relationship to success and her best self with that of her parents.  She feels as thought she is from a totally different generation than her parents and what was the standard ( the "bar")set for them is different than what is is for her generation.  Her husband is a different story because he is French.  She felt as though what is fulfillment in one society is different than what is fulfillment and success in another society.  I asked her to expand on what success really is...is it a car and a house or is it contentment?  Then we talked about how the standard of success always seems to change.  What is "success" for one person is not the same for another.  How do we guard against this when it is recognized?

When the conversation turned to me, I shared with Jennifer one of my own struggles in finding my true self and that's mixing my professional aspirations with the person that I am on a day to day basis I think since I started coaching my life has become a lot about competition.  Win the next game, make the most money, have a big hues, etc.  I have found an outlet for my ambition that has turned on the fire house and has permeated through different parts of my life.  Truthfully, I don't totally hate this side of me.  I like being good at what I am good at and that's not something I totally want to give up.  However, I think that it can sometimes negatively effect my happiness because when you are always chasing the next thing you do not get to slow down and appreciate the things that you have.  Jennifer asked some good questions and it made me see that it's not totally a bad thing or something that needs to be fixed.

I've said it before but Jennifer is a great person.  She makes me feel comfortable with talking about some personal things which is the sign if a good listener.  It's funny because sometimes in our conversations our roles get reversed and you can't really tell who the coach is and who the coach is.